The Second Nine Months

" Having your first baby can be the single biggest transition you'll ever experience in your life. And lost some people might tell you that the first few -- are difficult. That's happening in Vicky in hockey -- memoir called. The second nine months he's here to share the most important things that she recently told her when she was pregnant I love this book -- because you're getting real. About being a first time mom yet true and -- the first thing he's facing embrace those maternity clothes just when you picked up. And -- yeah I mean you when you you think you're gonna come home from the hospital -- you're gonna get back. And to normal but that you look at the -- and it's like somebody is twisted off your head put it on your mom's body like you still need those pants with the big -- even and -- ordinance and vote it's been four years we're still not at the skinny -- right so embraces yeah us love them are its second they say. Be prepared babies cry yeah I was I didn't really is and how often and much they cried and how well. Non stop that lives and how much time you spend with them from like I can fix this to. He should not -- so it's crazy -- things like -- sleep a lot but actually to decry it. Yeah they Cryolife equal probably okay so be ready for that now as well in the next C say. And this one and I love because I've heard this from friends of mine you will want to kill your husband license. Because your husband still thinks he can go to the gym after work and he dies and you come home and your like. Take this baby away from you but they you know we're going through the same thing but it's harder on the mom and I didn't realize I was gonna wanna kill him so kind of frequently secretly. And it isn't okay affiliate that you're sure that look we talked about the fact they're feeling anxious quiet wrote this but. You know everybody's. In one way or another feelings that -- right in the next thing you say say. People tell you call what you need anything I think people a lot of times think people just sold. Yeah -- kind of afraid to ask for help because being a mother is supposed to be you know. Natural and you're supposed to know what to do so. And I found was. I didn't wanna say take over Britney casserole you gonna be super mom and tell yourself did you think you should be able to because it seems like everybody else is doing that but you really need to ask for help I wish somebody would send that many in the registering emirates stressed that I'm an analyst. Okay the next thing you say. And this is an interesting when you say find other moms have kids are the same age why is it's important twelve when you somebody US you know you have a newborn and they have a newborn and a three year old they have to hold will be forgotten. Those that with the transition. From with your first speaking which is not like -- secondary or third first baby is like yesterday no baby today baby and that is a new thing in your life and so Nelson and don't get better and I think hide whereas what you really need here is all that I'm totally dig and that is exactly how I feel they've forgotten. C needs friends or going to the scenes saying -- ain't got it and you say mom's life what are -- lying about we all eyes and I don't think he's alive but. Our biggest fears that we don't want people to think of us is bad moms so you're saying things like over time. It's great past time of my life when meanwhile you're sitting there thinking I'm the only woman on the planet you know. Is suffering from this. Difficulty okay -- In your book you say all of this is normal gas field. Yeah I consider -- I mean there are issues of postpartum depression than those need to be addressed but. I think postpartum freaking out is pretty normal and even if people aren't saying they're going through it. They are AR -- I thank you so much -- and brawling expecting new mothers out there. Whom previous corporate reality check I think a lot of them. Make sure to pick up a copy of the second month and get all the advice you need help make that transition into motherhood a lot easier on you."