Hot Topic - Erin Bried

" You're standing at the -- ready to say I do to a lifetime of love right. Well according to a new research out there more people than ever stand at the -- already knowing that their marriage is doomed but they went through anyway and it's happening a lot more as the times change so here to talk about the reasons and also get her opinion on this is -- she's the author. A how to sew a button she's interviewed hundreds maybe thousands of grandmothers for advice of her book. And I would only imagine what the grandmothers would have to say about this one right is yeah. Data they've been married for years yeah all of the grandmothers I interviewed for the book have been married fifty years or longer. So and -- you're married to you right yes a lot of people have like this fantasy about what marriage is supposed to be like and that's why they just go through with an even though they know that there's some trouble yes you know I think a lot of people they focus on the big day and they spend all of your money and all of -- energy thinking about that day and they don't think beyond that they and the thing is that they -- so fast it's you're talking about the rest of your life there -- difference between winning and parents to completely kidnappings usually -- you'll -- wedding. Others -- hopefully I USA today had this article is really interesting and they talked about why men and women actually went through with them the marriage. They're standing at the -- they knew something was wrong and a lot of got divorced six months afterwards. Surprisingly enough a lot of them said they just didn't wanna be single anymore Houdini thinks and that. More so than than the other men women and got married because and wanted to single Ireland again generalization. But I'm pretty sure that was probably the women who are saying that -- I would have thought this ain't gonna. Pentagon and I really miss it. With greatest settled down they're ready to settle -- for the most part that's usually when and why isn't getting done with the plane around and I'm ready to settle down okay and win. You can get wanna get me -- other reason so that that's a reason why I think that that made sense quite a few mormons said that. A lot of them said that they had thought that this her partner was the best that they thought they could do that was it that was the best. What do you think said that more so than the other night when I don't attend. -- benefit. It was pretty close this -- any more -- and kind and yet more women I guess my choices are being limited and that they got to hurry up and wrap it up and and it that the thing going on T think people need to listen to their inner voices before they."

" Say I do I mean -- you know go -- I think. Absolutely 100% yes you have to listen to your instincts I mean speaking from my own personal experience when you know it's right. You know it's -- out exactly what a lot of the people that they interviewed in the article says that they face pressure from their parents. To get married you're at a certain age they're pushing to get married some people to say they want to get out of the house. And others say they got married for financial reasons to do you think that our generation as opposed to the grandmothers that you interviewed in the book we got married and much younger yet it seemed very much longer. Our feeling that price and that's why. You know I think it that what I learned from the grandmothers is that you really have to invest in your marriage and work out and you know was about. It was about the little things like thinking each other for doing you know doing the small things every day and then things he might not think about that they're so important and I think we forget that. The -- today glad that you said that too because it said a lot of people don't nobody sees what a healthy marriages they just know we're we're getting married Amber's plus a swing it. Healthy marriage will what's the actual definition attitudes is pretty interesting just to see what people think good luck ice. They so much and good to have you here."